Choosing To Be Different

Chipo Paradzai (right)

By Chipo Paradzai

“The graveyard is the richest place on earth, because it is here that you will find all the hopes and dreams that were never fulfilled, the books that were never written, the songs that were never sung, the inventions that were never shared, the cures that were never discovered, all because someone was too afraid to take that first step…” - Les Brown

Hmm, this is a powerful quote, I must say. It is sad that most people die with a tremendous amount of potential. A couple of months ago, I was sad to hear of two young women that I knew who were in their early 20s that lost their lives. It dawned on me that the world would never get to experience their gifts and talents. It struck me that their chance to unleash their potential was gone, their opportunity to fulfill their purpose on this earth was up. BUT today you are alive, you still have a chance to be who you were created to be - its a matter of making a decision. It is all up to you! Today CHOOSE TO BE DIFFERENT!

Choosing to be different means doing things you have never done before, getting yourself out of your comfort zone, implementing those ideas that are constantly lingering in your head. It means taking on a different mindset - a winner's mindset. You don't just wake up a winner, you decide to be one, so you walk like one, you talk like one, and you do things like one.

We were all created for a special purpose. Yes. That means you are very unique, you are important, and your life has a meaning. Your contributions to the world are very important, you have something powerful to offer to this world. You may not know it. You see, not knowing something doesn't mean you don't have it. Let me give you an example. Lets say you know for a fact that you are currently penniless. You know that all your pockets are empty. If I secretly place a $100 note into the back of your jeans, you might walk around starving, wishing you had money to buy food at a restaurant, but the fact is that you are $100 rich. You just do not know it, LOL. So its up to you to find out what was deposited in you and to make use of it. Its up to you to identify your capabilities and maximize your abilities!

You have a divine assignment, so you have to tell yourself that you will fulfill it no matter what! This means eliminating any form of distraction from your life - a bad friend, a toxic relationship. Associations are powerful. You'd rather be alone for some time than to associate with rotten apples that will spoil you as well.  When you choose to let go of certain things such as a bad lifestyle or anything in general that does not build you nor edify you, you save yourself from a lot. As young people, sometimes we may feel like we haven't lived our lives to the fullest if we do not experience things such as smoking weed, having sex with various partners, living the music video lifestyle (you know what I mean), but let me tell you that that's an illusion. Its not true. Use the days of your youth wisely - instead of wasting an awful amount of time and energy, all that focus could be redirected towards making a difference to this world, leaving your footprints on the sands of time, leaving your mark in this world. Your purpose is more important than any form of relationship that doesn't build you.

You have to be intentional about the change you want to see in your life! That means you have to put deliberate effort towards the change. You have to work on it until it becomes a habit. Make the decision to be different now! It all starts with a decision. You see, you don't just get there in a day or two, it takes time but with consistency you will get there. Start working on yourself:

• Expand your knowledge: read books and blogs that will inspire and motivate you. My recommendations are works by Jack Canfield, Dr Cindy Trimm, Napoleon Hill, Zig Ziglar and Les Brown's books and blogs (which you can easily access online).
• Research about people that are in the same field as the one you would like to venture into - their biographies and their lifestyles. Get to know the methods that got them there.
• Implement any ideas you have in your head. I believe that great ideas cross our minds for a special reason, that is, for us to make them happen.
• Try out new activities - engage in activities you have never done in your life before. I can use myself as an example. I had never blogged before, nor do I consider myself a creative writer, but my head is filled with so much knowledge in certain areas so I had to use the blogging platform to express and give out this knowledge to those who need it. I tell you, the feedback and impact has been tremendous.
• Self introspection - take a private moment right now. Ask yourself a few questions. Where am I right now? What got me here? What can I do to get where i want to get? What do I need to change that will make me a better person?

 

It may even be overwhelming when you begin to realize there's a lot of work to be done in your life. But start by choosing one area in your life, do things one step at a time, work on one area at a time. Please note that in the process of changing your life for the better, choosing to be different,  and aligning yourself to your destiny, you will get a lot of resistance. You will be criticized, mocked, or even discouraged by those around you - even those you love, or by the look of circumstances. You will make mistakes because you are learning and taking on a new thing in your life and that's okay. Learn from those mistakes and continue to push yourself. KEEP ON KEEPING ON. Basically, PRESS ON. With time you will get there. Just as there are bad consequences for making the wrong decisions, there are also rewards for making great life changing ones. The rewards may not come immediately but eventually they will, and when they do, they will be in excess. You will look back five years later and be happy with the decision you would have made now, that is, the decision to be different.

KEEP SHINING!!